Diverse Sexuality, Sex and Gender
Sexuality, sex and gender can be complex and dynamic. While there is increasing acceptance of people of diverse sexuality and gender, many people still experience homophobia, biphobia and transphobia. These forms of discrimination can be difficult to manage without support, which can help you to discover and value your own uniqueness.
Heterosexuality is not more normal than other sexualities, it’s just more common.
It is normal to be attracted to women, men, no-one, other diverse genders or just to people in general regardless of their gender. Some people find it useful to identify with a label that fits for them, such as queer, pansexual, bisexual, lesbian, gay, heteroflexible, demisexual, fluid, asexual, polyamorous, or many other words that are emerging as people try to capture their unique experience of sexuality in language. Other people just identify as not straight, or choose not to label their sexuality at all. A person’s experience of their own sexual orientation can change over time. You may have been attracted to people of the opposite sex and then found yourself attracted to someone of the same sex or someone with a diverse gender identity.
Sometimes the sex you were assigned at birth is not the same as your gender identity.
Some people find that their gender identity and way of expressing their gender doesn’t fit into society’s expectations about gender being binary, while others feel very clearly male or female. Some people find the umbrella term transgender (or trans) helpful in identifying as part of the trans community, and there are many other words such as genderqueer and genderfluid, which describe non-binary gender identities. Some gender diverse people access hormones or surgery to change their bodies to be more aligned with their gender identity, and many do not medically transition for different personal reasons.
Physiological sex can also be less binary than expected, as intersex people have anatomical, hormonal, or chromosomal characteristics that don’t align with medical expectations for male and female bodies.
Your subjective experience of your sexuality, sex or gender is valid and will be respected by the counsellors at Melbourne University Counselling and Psychological Services.
Links for further support
Queer Counselling and Support
- Switchboard (telephone counselling and referral)
- Drummond St Services Queerspace
- Victorian Aids Council
Queer-Friendly GP Clinics
Trans and Gender Diverse GP service